When Real Life interrupts

Hi all,

As you may have noticed, I haven’t posted for a few days.  A couple of things have bought me up short.

The first was our Youngest, as you know, he went off to University last September, we have had him back in a regular basis, and it was becoming more regular.

After me asking a few questions, he finally broke down and admitted that he hated being at Uni, 2 of his housemates were giving Youngest and another lad that lived there an awful time, nothing major, but continuous, nasty behaviour making the 2 lads feel isolated and unable to come out of their rooms.

He also, is not enjoying his course, when he was applying for Uni, he was torn between Primary Teaching and Business Management, and as he had done so well in his A level Business Management, he chose that, and now says that he almost immediately regretted his choice, but was worried about telling us.

My immediate reaction was to get him home, an acquaintance of ours had the dreadful news just before Christmas that her daughter had taken her own life at Uni, and that terrified me – so he is home.

He is being very proactive, and has already been accepted for an Early years teaching degree, if he wishes to take it up and is working to pay for his rent, which he is still committed to till September.

The second thing was that I did not notice the issue, we felt so bad that our 18 year old child had left home and was having such a sad time and didn’t want to tell us as he didn’t want us to worry.

We have agreed that he is the one that has to make the final decision but whatever he decides, he will have our full support and he knows that he can tell us anything.

So at present, I am not empty nested, and I will be carrying on with my blog, but it will no long be daily, as much as I love doing it, my family is more important.

I will keep you updated on Youngest over the next few months – and thank you for your concern – you are lovely people x

Author: emptynestfulltum

Hi - I'm a 49 yo Mum to 3 kids - Jordan (23), Grace (21) and Max (19). And Wife to my lovely Husband, Dave and step mum to 4 fur babies, our cats Eric, Ernie, Cilla and Bobbie. We live on the beautiful Isle of Wight, Hubby and I were born here, and just love our home. As I hurtle towards 50, my life as a full time (working) parent is coming to an end, with my eldest 2 kids living their own lives, and my youngest who started University in September. I realised that this is not a time to be sad, but a time to take time to spend time on some of the things I enjoy doing - mainly cooking, crafting and creating Pinterest boards for said thing s :) This blog is just a way for me to record the next stages of our lives - I hope you enjoy my ramblings...

5 thoughts on “When Real Life interrupts”

  1. Kids will find their own path, the hardest part is letting them find it by their own efforts. My more academic eldest repeated his first year then changed course…he didn’t graduate, but after a time signing on has now been in a job longer than me & my hubby. Youngest is dyslexic, only diagnosed at 19 on entry to uni…he’s got his degree, a Masters (and moved back in 3 weeks after we married!), is now married and working p/t as a uni lecturer while doing a PhD. It’s all part of the joy of being a parent – we think that them leaving home is as hard as it gets, but that’s when they start their own lives and our gift is allowing them to do that. Big hugs from Blackpool hun xx

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  2. Thoughts are with your family! I work at a large university and the young people face so much pressure to figure out their lives. It’s not a destination to ‘finish’ a degree, it’s a life and there are soooo many routes – all unique.

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    1. Thank you x I think he could have coped if it were just one or the other, but not enjoying your course, then going ‘home’ to a toxic environment was just too much – Uni staff were brill, and they suggested the change of course for October, I think a fresh start is needed whatever that may be for him x

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